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Hi there,
my brother is getting married in next few months. The marriage celebration/parties will run for 4 days(Wednesday, Thrusday, Friday: Wedding day, Saturday: In-house party). And my daughter(6yrs) lives 150mi away from me with my ex.
I want my daughter to attend this celebration as its a once in a lifetime family get-together.
Can my ex deny the contact because my daughter can't take Two days off from school...?
Also can my ex oppose contact on Friday as she have had a long day at school and it would be hard to travel 150mi !?
Info,
It all depends on the level of contact you currently have. From your more recent posts, it appears that your ex is limiting you to supervised contact and you're trying to obtain a better arrangement through the courts. Is this still the case?
If you're currently having supervised contact, I'm unsure whether a court will allow you to have your daughter for 3 or 4 nights. What usually happens is that the court suggests that you have limited unsupervised contact to begin with. This would mean that you could take your daughter out for a few hours and then return her to the contact centre or an agreed location. You would be expected to build on this towards an overnight stay and then weekends.
You can ask the court, but I'm not sure that you'll get the outcome that you want just yet. I know it's hard, but you have to demonstrate that your a patient father who is prepared to abide by the courts decisions. If you give them any cause for concern you'll only be making things harder for yourself in the long run...
I'd agree with filmmaker,
If you are only having supervised contact at the moment its very unlikely that you will be able to gain permission for the 4 nights you are asking for.
It's a shame for your daughter to miss out but look at the bigger picture and being able to build your time with her slowly for continued access to happen.
Darren
supervised contact is not decided yet. the court has asked my ex to file her statement detailing all the allegation she has against me. Then its upto the court if they want to dig deeper into my medical records to find out if i have had any sucidal attempts, and/or i need a supervised contact.
before the court could decided im at the position to take my daughter over night and during holidays, however my concern is about the school holidays! my daughter have to take 2 days off from school to attend the wedding which i thnk my ex will take it a concern and may oppose to it
What is the current level of contact you have with your daughter? How often do you see her and is it unsupervised?
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