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I currently live with my partner and we have two children under the age of five.
I constantly live under the threat of her upping and leaving and taking the kids with her.
In the past she did leave and went to her brother's house for a couple of months, and they made access to my kids very difficult.
We eventually reconciled, but I'm having various issues with her which is driving me nuts.
For example, she spends most of her time in bed and desides to be a mother/partner as and when it suits her.
Recently I took my family on a weekend break to london to see all the sites, and we all had a lovely day and everyone enjoyed themselves thoroughly.
The very next day, she went into a 'depression' for no reason at all. I took the kids out but she refused to come. When I got home i fed the kids, bathed them and put them to bed. I went to bed myself early because I was not feeling well and I had work in the morning. She comes in the room and casually tells me that she has 'taken all' of her antidepressant tablets.
I immediately called an ambulance and they took her the A&E
Since then, we are having random visits from health visitors etc
She is still lying in bed leaving me to everything and still threatening to leave.
I am very worried about my kids as I am the only stable person in their lives and it will devastate them if she takes them again.
Please can someone give me some advice.
I was thinking about applying for full residency and becoming a full time dad, but the complicated thing is is that my partner is still living in the same house and I don't know how strong my case in the courts weld be.
Hi droid,
I think it might be best to have a word with your GP and the health visitor about your concerns, what you tell your Gp is confidential and your consultation will then be on record. Request that your conversation with the health visitor is in confidence too. At least then what is happening will be a matter of record with the different agencies.
Do you think there are jealousy issues...it might sound strange but she could be jealous of the attention the children get from you, that might explain her behaviour and the overdose after your day out. It's about attention seeking.
It sounds to me that she may need counselling and it might help if you try and talk to her about it, tell hr that you are worried about her and her lack of interest and energy....suggest that you go together to the GP.
If you were to apply for residence she is likely to react badly, as she would be summoned to court which would make things a lot worse probably.
If she leaves then at least your concerns about her ability to look after the children will be a matter of record, the suicide attempt will also be available in her medical records, this would assist you to apply for residence and at least give your application some weight.
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