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Hi,
I live 162 miles from my daughter so being involved in her day to day life is impossible. My Ex has recently informed me that she has been taking our daughter to the doctors for various reasons. She is saying she doesn't concentrate or listen, she is showing signs of misbehaviour and wont settle at the night times. All these things are what happens when she is in her care. When i have my daughter at mine she is nothing like this. For these reasons my daughters Doctor is referring her to a specialist. As you can imagine i am concerned by this and i want to speak to my daughters doctor so i can have some questions answered and find out from him or her first hand what has been discussed and his opinion on things.
My Ex is refusing to let me have the name and number of the doctor and has told me that once she knows more about what is going on she will inform me as to what has been discussed. My name is on the birth certificate and i have parental responsibilty due to this. As this matter is involving my daughters well being and health can my ex refuse to give me the number and name of our daughters doctor?
as the father of your child (your as in both of you) and with PR you have every right to know what is going on with your child......the doctors will need proof of id and birth cert etc...
your ex should not keep this sort of information from you....i would suggest try asking her again as you're also worried as she is not like that when she is with you....be calm and polite.
if she still won't tell you then you need to get legal advice as to how to track down your childs doctors......you ave rights even though the ex's don't let you a lot of the time!
Dear dad-i-d
Thank you for your post.
From the information you have provided it appears you have Parental Responsibility.
Parental Responsibility is defined in s.3(1) Children Act 1989 as being: "all the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and his property".
Practically Parental Responsibility means that both parties should consult and consent on issues such as schooling, medical issues, change of name, removal from the jurisdiction and other major issues concerning the child.
As you do have Parental Responsiblity you should be consulted on medical issues and informed of information if you request this.
The first stage that we would suggest you attempt with your ex partner is mediation. Mediation is used where parties are in disagreement over various issues surrounding the child. It is hoped that the parties will work together in mediation together with a mediator to try and reach an amicable resolution without having to resort to court proceedings. It is important to note that anything agreed in mediation is not legally binding . To arrange mediation please contact National Family Mediation on 0300 4000 636.
If mediation does not work then you may wish to make an application to the Court for a Specific Issue Order. This application would be requesting that the information surrounding your daughter's GP and medical information is disclosed to you.
To apply for this Order you would need to complete a form C100 which can be found at www.justice.gov.uk or collected from your local Family Proceedings Court. There is a fee of £200 for this application however if you are entitled to a fee remission the form for this is an EX160A.
Once the form(s) have been completed you will need to hand these in to the Family Proceedings Court closest to where the child resides along with the relevant fee. The Courts will then contact you with a hearing date.
Should you require any further legal advice please do not hesitate to contact us via our webchat facility which can be found at www.childrenslegalcentre.com and is available Monday to Friday 9am to 6pm.
Yours sincerely
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