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Hi There,
I'm not a dad but I am here asking for help on behalf of me and my fiancé who has 2 children.
For the second time this year we have been denied contact due to his ex wife changing religion and saying we're not allowed to see the children until God days it's ok... I kid you not.
She has not gotten in contact asking us to have the kids as per the previous arrangement as she is no longer to able to cope with the eldest child's violent outbursts.
We would love to have them back but we were wondering if a parenting plan can be formalised into a contact or consent order without having to attend a costly court hearing? We want something enforceable as this is the 11th time she has denied contact in the 2 years my partner and I have been together and 15th time since they split up. All this to-ing and fro-ing is having such a bad effect on the children and we want to ensure they have some stability and security.
Any help or advice would be very much appreciated! 🙂
Sorry about this - but the bit about "until God says its OK" made me laugh - it's like "the voices in my head told me to do it". That really is completely ludicrous.
I would say that mediator is a waste of time, and that court is the only sensible option. However, if you do the work and represent yourself, then there's only the court fee, which is around £200 as a one off fee. Take a look at yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal section to see how it's done, and we can give plenty of assistance and call on the CCLC for legal help.
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