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I read on this forum quite a lot about fathers who have committed violence against their children and as a result of that have to attend domestic violence programs. In some cases, the violence results in them not being able to see their children at all.
My ex partner has admitted violence towards the children but cafcass have only asked her to go on a program that addresses when children will be adolescents - several years from now.
I wish to show that my children are still at risk and that the proposed measures of dealing with my ex's violence are not proportional.
Could anyone show case history that I can present to the parties involved to show that if this was a father the repercussions would be much more severe and that the decisions cafcass have made are biased.
I don't think you'll get anywhere following that train of thought. It shouldn't be like that but it is.
When you say "violence" can you elaborate a little please?
Hitting children, smacking them repeatedly (including across the face), screaming at them for up to an hour for things like not understanding their homework, dragging a hairbrush through long hair so that the children are screaming in pain, etc. This amongst other things like locking them in a laundry room when they were "naughty", constant mood swings (family history of bipolar disorder, other psychological disorders), irrational behaviour.
If this was a father, things would be totally different.
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