Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: We are not open to new posts at this time
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Hi, I'm a father of one, Jasmine Mclean, aged 4 years. She lives with her mum after we had an argument which resolved not seeing my kid since her 1st birthday. After recently getting back in contact with my daughter roughly 3-4 weeks ago, I grow more anxious to have more custody over Jasmine. Reasons being: her mother has said to me and others ''i hibernate in the winter....[censored] taking her to school in this weather...she isn't missing out on much anyway'' and so on..., I have tried asking the mother and Jasmine if she can come to my house or stay over at my house but all i get from her is ''i need to inform my social worker that Jasmine is back in contact with her dad...i promise i'll sort something'' and so on...but she has agreed to allowing her but when it comes to it she cancels at last minute. The list goes on but I just need to know am I going mad or can I get more custody of my daughter?
Hi There,
From what I am reading you find yourself in the unenviable postion of having to start legal proceeding as previous "verbal agreements" have failed.
After I read the legal help available on this website I could not wait to get started. It's not that complicated but it's not that easy dealing with what might be aledged against you.
I hope to get to see your kid REAL SOON.
Brian
I understand what you're saying. But there is one thing that I forgot to mention, I'm not on my child's birth certificate as she was born in Isle Of Mann. Should I still proceed to take legal action & get legal advice?
Thanks for your reply, Brian.
Hi,
Assuming that your ex will behave like so many woman that we hear of on this website she may say that you are not the father, then it's on you to prove paternity with a DNA test. Can you afford that before you take any other legal advice? You might like to take legal advice but you will not be told any more than you will find on this valuble site.
Being a Litigant In Person was not as trumatic as I thought it would be. For me it was more about maintaining my composure when I was being faced with drug/alcohol/abuse allegations.
What I really meant to say is that if you have your mind set on having a quality, long term, relationship with your daughter get to court and get it sorted asap.
Brian
Hi,
Thanks alot for the useful advice. Now I know what I need to do & what I'm going to do.
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
