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so heres the story hope not to unclear. me and the ex split up and we just cant get on anymore to start with it didnt affect our son in anyway but her family influence on her i have seen my son less and less.
to start everytime i had a family occasion he was to ill (every single time we agreed for me to have him for a few hours, the day or the weekend) then the more we argue (due to me not being able to see him) she has turned it to me having to much of a temper (have never ever hurt her or another woman let alone my son)
Its now been 4 months since i have seen him, and around 4-6 months before that i got to see him for just a few hours or if several weeks due to him "being ill" i had for 1 night. 1 minute she says shes not stopping me seeing him then the next its shes arranging with her solicitor for contact (an anonymous solicitor at that) she says her solicitor is gathering info from everybody? i know its just delaying tactics as she has moved away and wont tell me her phone number or address and also that she wants no money from me despite always supporting him and wanting to. it sounds like she just wants me to dissapear so she can make her perfect family with my son with someone else.
i thought fathers had rights but very dissapointed to read storys of the expense of contact orders to then not be enforced and have to go back to court and start the fees all over i hope this isnt true and the cases are when the father has been violent and has issues and is some cause for it.
As i work full time im not entitled to any legal aid and my solicitor told me all i can do as she wont give address is to go straight to court. i only have her email address which when i do get a reply get some excuse about her solicitor sending me a letter.
can anyone give me any guidance about what i need to do i cant just walk away and wait for him to be brainwashed and decide if he even wants to know his dad when hes old enough to do so (hes nearing his 2nd birthday) are these horror storys of 10-20k and courts still doing nothing real?
Hi and welcome
First thing I'd suggest is to read yoji's guide to representing yourself (top of the legal section) as this gives you an idea to the process, and it may be something that you can do, or at least do some of to keep your costs down, using your solicitor only for help when needed. It does sound like you are going to need to go to court, though, to get a contact order, and if and when you get to that stage, ask the judge to clarify what the consequences of your ex not complying with the contact order are, so she is in no doubt. Unfortunately, though, you are right in that sometimes the courts do seem reluctant to enforce repeated breaches of orders, but if nothing else, you can tell your son later on (with evidence) that you were fighting as hard as possible to see him.
Hi There,
it's sad to hear that this has happened, you can go to court and it doesn't need to cost a lot of money, you can self represent and that will mean just the cost of applying for the court order, you could if needed just consult with a solicitor on anything you were unsure of.
You will need her address though to be able to serve the papers.
Darren
i think if you are unsure of the respondents address you can ask them to attach a c4 i think it is that means the court will use all means available to locate her saw that mentioned in another thread
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