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Hi AAcharlie,
these trouble making ex's need to be put in their place. i can't remember if i read it here or another forum, but apparently if the ex breaches a court order, and you go to get it enforced 2-3 times, then the courts will get fed up and can punish the ex by transferring residency, so kids get moved to live with you.
then again, stupid things can happen. like when i took my SPIP separated parents course, there was a dad there who looked very sad and frustrated. he said he enforced an order as ex breached, but court sent him on the parenting course (same one for the 2nd time!!)
if i was in your situation, i would try to reason with the ex. but if shes not interested, i would pay the £215 to enforce. money comes and goes. ive played about in the money markets in the past and lost quite a bit. so these costs dont bother me any more.
I agree they sometimes don’t fear the consequences but it doesn’t mean there won’t be any . I agree try to reason 1st but say things can’t carry on , you’ve been more than amicable and tried everything to make arrangements work for your ex too but if you carry on in breach you’ll have no choice but to go to court again and there will be serious consequences. I’ve found when it gets to this stage it gets slowly worse
Bill337/CityDad,
Many thanks for all your help.
I am chasing social services for a family meeting and will keep you all updated.
Your advice and kind words have giving me renewed hope.
AACharlie
Hi there
I’m assuming that you’ve spoken to the disability team, what have they suggested? Have you spoken to the children’s school? They might be able to give you some insight into the children’s demeanour/ behaviour after returning from a visit with you?
I think it’s crucial to try and avoid court, but sometimes that’s just not possible. A good first step would be to write to her formally, you can do this yourself, or you can get a solicitor to write it for a fee.
Explain that she is in clear breach of the order and that you have made every effort to resolve the situation, but because no progress has been made, you feel that you have no other option but to return to court for enforcement of the existing order.
I would certainly speak to all the agencies involved with your children and get an understanding of their stance, should the case return to court.
As has been said, self representing is doable and you’ll find plenty of usefulinformation, especially in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section.
It might also be worth considering mediation as a way of getting things back on track... worth it if it helps you to avoid court.
All the best
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