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My ex has decided she now wants full residency.
Let me expand. 4 years ago, with intervention from social services, I became the sole carer of my son and his sister ( they were 7 months and 2 respectively). Since 2010 the mum has seen them most weekends and as a knee [censored] reaction to a disagreement over xmas arrangements has filed a residency order.....full of accusations which I can disprove and allegations of abuse which social services will disprove.
Cafcass have written to me informing me that they will contact me in a few weeks.
Both children are now at school and my little girl ( who is not mine biologically) has issues with her behaviour which are being dealt with through the school and behaviour support with me. My little boy is very stable and has no issues with school or learning. They are both anxious when they leave me for the weekends ( this could be a conflict of abandonment issues or just that they do not like being with mum which is vebalised by them on various occasions).
My main concern is the safety and constancy I provide them being destroyed by the ins and outs of the processes I am now involved with.
My main question is will the children be spoken to by cafcass, with them being so young? And is there anyone on here that has either had experience or themselves maintained residency of a child that is not biologically thiers?
Thanks for reading
I think you've pretty much covered it. The courts would have to have a very good reason to take the children away from you where they are settled, and place them with your ex, where they are not and where there would be welfare concerns. Make a reasonable offer on contact so the courts are satisfied in that respect, and if you don't have PR for your little girl, then I'd apply for that whilst in court. Because of the complexities, I would suggest that you give CCLC a call (there is a link at the bottom of the website) rather than getting them to comment on here.
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