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Hi Everyone,
Just to summerise the situation:
Me and my wife have seperated but have yet to divorce. The house we lived in is owned by my wife and her father. We married in June 2008 and split in April 2012. I have been told im entitled to capital from the house but I am under suspitions that she has moved her boyfriend in. We are yet to go to court about divorce but I just want to know where I stand. Is he allowed to live in a house with my son whilst I own part of the house without my consultaion and agreement.
Dont know much about this subject so any advice would be great.
This looks similar to my situation was back in 2010/2011. but i was on the mortgage as we bought the house together 50/50 equity.
Honest answer is my ex did what she wanted and I had to accept it….so I stopped paying my share of the mortgage….i assume “he” started helping her out on that score……it took me from then until April 2012 to finally get her to agree to either sell the house or buy me out….when the paper work started she had sold her equity to him and I was also doing the same……but the difference being she married him in 2011 so “what’s his” is gonna be “half hers”! unless he’s been more clever than her!
I was told by the solicitor I had at the time and the mortgage company that there was not a lot I could do as she has “invited him” to live with her….as i wasn’t living there as long as the mortgage is being paid the mortgage company didn’t care where they got paid from.
I’m not 100% sure but if you have your name on the bills and can prove you paid a share of the mortgage/bills etc… then I guess you should be entitled to a share of the equity from the point that you can prove back to.
So if you can prove that you paid the bills from 2008 then I’d guess you should be entitled to a share of the equity built up since that point.
Trying to get it out of the ex and father-in-law may be another thing though! Good luck with that!
Thanks.
I guessed there wasnt much I could do about it.
Its just another stressful situation for me and my son being so young he doesnt understand about who his parents are and that creates a lot of emotions for me.
As every dad on here will know, my attachment to my son is greater than I could of ever imagined and accepting he will grow up not knowing any different is hard to take.
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