Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: We are not open to new posts at this time
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
Can anyone help please ?
I stopped paying maintenance when my children completed their A levels at age 18 as both my ex wife and I thought this was correct and nothing has been paid (to my ex wife) since. My kids are now aged 20 and 21. My son went straight to University and I helped him with monthly payments to help him. My daughter had a two year gap before she decided she would like to go to University. During this time she was in full time employment.
She too received payments from me when she went to university, although neither received the amount I was paying to their mother under the terms of the original court order.
My ex wife last night informed me through my son that she believes that through the original court order, I agreed to pay, through the order, until 'full time tertiary education' was completed and is therefore seeking back payments for both, for the past two years.
My daughter completed her A levels then worked for two years. I stopped my payments then as she had left school and was employed full time.
Two years later she decided to go to University. Does anyone know, under these circumstances if I am legally bound to pay my ex wife the originally agreed £250 pcm regarding my daughter, if my ex wife is right about the original order being 'full time tertiary' etc. (and I am sure she is)
I understand if she is right then my sons payments should not have stopped so would anything I can prove I paid to him be discounted from back payments?
Thankyou.
John
Hi There,
I would check with the courts as it's my understanding that the any court order for finances only stand for 12 months but as said check with them or a solicitor.
I would have thought that only the court could enforce this as the CSA only collect up end of college.
As said contact the courts first to save the cost of a solicitor, but then check with solicitor if you don't get anywhere.
As for the payments made to your son directly you would need to have some proof of payments if they were to be considered and even then it may not count, again check with the courts or a solicitor.
Darren
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
