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Apologies for hijacking your post.
I am in a similar situation. My ex and I were together for 3 years when she fell pregnant, however, we split only a matter of weeks after finding out she was pregnant. When my wee boy was born we made a verbal agreement between ourselves of shared custody.
Over the 16months since he was born there have been a number of occasions whenmy ex has changed the arrangements, i have not had any option, she basically says this is whats happen, i dont have a say in the matter. The worst of these came last xmas when xmas day fell on the weekend he was due to spend with me. She wasnt happy about this and told me he was staying with her for his first xmas. I wasnt happy about it however she made it clear thats what was happening. We had agreed that this year would be my year with him at xmas but now she has decided that he should be with her every xmas until he is old enough to decide for himself.
All i want is to be able to wake up with my wee boy on xmas morning. I am happy to have alternate years.
What can i do? Is my only option going to court?
Hi and welcome
I've moved your post to its own thread as it can get quite messy if different issues come up.
It may be worth speaking to your ex and asking if she's prepared to go to mediation to get an agreement drawn up covering xmas and birthdays for the next few years so that you aren't dealing with each one as a separate issue - if she isn't prepared to do this, then you could be looking at a contact order to get contact defined properly.
How often do you have your boy during the week and weekends? Is she not willing to let you have any of Christmas day or boxing day?
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