[Solved] Re: Excuses for denying contact

Nah....shouldnt buy it.

Depends on what kind of contact you want - are you going for shared contact or less?

I am not sure what arrangements the ex has with the other father but by and large check what the arrangements are - there are enough hours in the week to ensure contact is facilitated.

If less than shared perhaps, just go along with the lines whilst you accept it is important that your son has contact with his half brother it is important that his father has contact with his son.

Not sure what the level of communication is....(so many factors lol), but see if she can deal with this amicably.

BW

Make sure you get anything between you two in writing….text/email/letters ……then produce it at court. let her then try and explain it with the judge cos I’m sure the judge won’t see it the way she does!

Hi mate,

Communication is practically zero save for her dictating times and days to me via text. I used to enjoy a relatively good level of contact with him until recently, and my application to court involved increasing the current level to what it used to be. My feeling it that I should not have to have contact dictated by my ex which just suits her and the arrangements she has with her previous partner. Unfortunately, amicable for both if us is a very distant concept hence the court involvement instigated by me.

When is the hearing buddy? Is there a set order by the courts....if so and she is breaking it she is in contempt of the court order.

If it is a long way away consider interim contact order....

If not too distant then highlight all the text and chaotic contact you are given and explain you would like to establish a consistent routine for your child.

BW

Hearing is 2nd week in October, the only direction from the first hearing was for us to both attend a PIP course in order to improve our communication......so that hasn't worked!! Just wanna be sure that her reason ( excuse ) for denying me contact isn't one that courts generally look on favourably in any way. To my mind, all she is doing is putting a premium on my sons' contact with his half-brother and playing that off against his contact with me. Can't be right.

Hello tel - just stick the the facts.....find out when contact between the two occurs. Find out what options are available in terms of future contact.......You child has the right to a family life including his sibblings clearly your rights should obviate his half brothers but their is an argument sibblings should not be separated so I would stick to the facts and prior to court issue a schedule of proposed contact as a starting point taking into account the circumstances.....

Boycie has given you some great help there.

I have to say that I do understand why she may want the two boys home together, certainly some times so that they too can have family days out, or work your contact in with half=brothers contact with his father, but my husband's niece has 3 kids, by different dads, and they all have different contacts...it works out. Does not mean that she should control contact but the contact also has to work with your working hours etc.