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Hi,
Although we have been separated for over 2 years, we have a 5 year old son between us. Having been encouraged by my current partner, I have made a statement to the police regarding the domestic violence I endured during the relationship with my ex...I must admit that this was something I had bottled up for over 2 years but I feel it is right that she should be made accountable for what she did. My concern is that although the officer who took my statement was very supportive and encouraging it appears that the matter is not being treated with any sort of priority. I accept that the allegations I have made are historical and because my contact with my ex is very limited, there is no immediate ongoing threat. However, since the statement she has thrown a very heavy bag directly at me on my doorstep knocking me backwards but causing no real injury. I have informed the police yet I am being told that the officer who will be dealing with the case is on holiday for 10 days!!! I cant help but feel that the matter isn't being taken as serious, it took an awful lot for me to get the courage to report all this and I am certain that if it was the other way round I would have been arrested, put in handcuffs, and taken to the police station to answer the allegations immediately!
sorry to hear you have suffered and it does take some courage to report.
In my experience the Police should make a report to the local DV unit and you should expect a vsit.
Could you contact the police and tell them tht you wish to be put in touch with the DV unit and speak to them?
They will visit you and offer assistance.
Regards,
Dave
carry on with telling the police. Keep a diary too of all your comms and references. It will help. I am in a situation where the police would not let me report harassment in April 2013. Now the wife has made a load of lies up, and guess what, I am now see as the harasser, and the police failed to take me seriously or take a statement from me. It is that bad I have gone to the chief constable and Theresa May now. I advise you, keep logs of everything, and be persistent. Look on line for other guys in your position, look at the Tyrone story on Corrnation St , see it any help lines came from that. It tackled a similar subject!
Good luck
Steve
It is appauling and another unjust part of the british public service which consistently shows bias towards the female gender.
I have written a stroppy letter to the borough commander and the lead for the DV unit about a similar predicament and will feed back if I get a response.
BW
Boyce
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