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Hi there
I have a Contact Order in place for my daughter whos lives at her mother. I have cleared myself that only she should contact me for any matter regarding my daughter, not her parents(my ex in-laws)
Recently my wife was stopped by my ex in-laws arguing about my daughter. They swear at her, they pulled her coat when she was trying to go away and more. because they were standing at the same street waiting for her to come back, she called the police straight away for help. But as usual the police are useless- they didn’t show up on time, they didn’t even tell anything to my ex in-law for this rude behaviour.
My concerns, what should I do:
When my ex in-laws are interfering the matter when it’s between me and my ex.
When my ex in-laws to talk and argue with my wife on our neighbourhood area regarding my daughter
Any advice will be appreciated
I'm limited on my knowledge of this, but I would have thought that because it's between your wife and your ex's family, then it's a totally separate issue to any contact issues, so a restraining order may be the only option, but you'll need proper legal advice on this.
I would suggest that you and your wife keep a diary of all events - time and place, what was said, if it was reported (in fact, I'd report it every time, whether or not the police respond, it's more official). Was your wife threatened at all? If so, and she believed that she could be harmed, then technically, it's assault (and in fact, the fact that they pulled her coat might constitute battery) so you could pressure the police to at least have a word with them.
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