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Hi,
Following the initial hearing the judge ordered us both to attend (separately) a Parenting Information Programme run by Relate. It is basically very common sense advice and tips regarding communication between both parties. Having both now attended the course it is clear that absolutely nothing has changed and I am still just waiting until the second hearing in October regarding the contact order. I am still only having very minimal contact and always dependent on how 'generous' or otherwise my ex is feeling, at the moment she is refusing me any additional time over the summer holidays too!
My question is, what can I expect at the second hearing? I want to make the court aware of her unchanged attitude and behaviour since the first hearing, do I have the opportunity to present a written statement? What is the court likely to be looking at during this hearing?
Many thanks
Tel
Were you asked / told to prepare statements for the second hearing?
I know in my case I was told to list what I was looking for and why it should be granted me. my ex had to submit her statement….basically why she was opposing increasing contact and why she should be believed.
If you weren’t advised to do this then it could be to see how you got on at the Parenting Program and if there has been any progress towards increasing contact.
If you have been instructed to do a statement then get it done and in to the courts quickly….send a letter in with it explaining that contact is not being increased and nothing has changed and your concerned that this is negatively impacting your relationship with your child, ask also if there is any way the courts can bring the hearing forward as October is 2 months away and in your opinion your child is suffering in this lengthy delays.
Its worth a shot!
Hi. Nothing was said regarding the second hearing only to confirm the date for it. Have just written to the court and asked for the hearing to be bought forward so just waiting to hear. If the court is going to make further directions based on the Parenting Programme course we have just attended surely they will require a full summary as to the outcomes, or lack of. In which case how do they get this information if not from me in the form of a statement??
Tel
Tel,
Myself i would pre-empt the need for statements and make a start on getting one prepared. However i would contact the court to see what they say.
My guess is as i said in my previous post.....just a check to see how its been going on. but being prepared for anything is a good thing then you're not caught without the information.
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