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Hello guys,
massive thanks to all that helpmake this site useful to all fathers fighting to stay in their childs life.
I was wondering if anyone can give me their advice or opinions on the following matter.
After years of arguing and just seen my 5 year old son for 4 hours a week and not at all when I work weekends.
I have filled out the C100 form however am stuck on section 9) risk.
Basically in october last year my ex wife's mother had told me that she wanted me and her to apply for custody of my son for the following reason.
my ex wife was going though a difficult time as her ex partner left her. while all this was happening, her mother often saw my ex wife's partner shouting and grabbing hold my son and often shoving him all because my ex wife paid more attention to my son.
I have never really got on with my ex wife's mother however this must have been serious for her to approach me.
At the time I didnt do anything as my ex wife's relationship with this guy was finished and I just wanted to make sure my son was ok and did not want the possibility of social services taking my child away form his home.
Now my question is do I put this on supplemental information form c1a even though:
- that idiot is not around my son anymore.
- that now am taking things to court, my ex wife's mother will deny everything
- that social services will be involved and possibly take my son away
- that without prove my contact application will be hindered
opinions and advice appreciated.
thanks
Hi there leonardo and welcome 🙂
I think that as this incident happened over a year ago and you didn't pass the information on to any agencies (SS, police) and the person concerned is no longer in your sons life, then I would be inclined to leave it alone.
If you included it I dont believe SS would take your son away at this juncture.
The court might see it as malicious as you have nothing to back it up with, and they would question why you didnt report it at the time. Also I don't think you could rely on the ex's mum to back you up now.
It would have a detrimental effect on your already strained relationship with your ex.
This is just my opinion....you could try talking to your ex's mum about it and see what she thinks now. You could talk to your ex about it and ask for some reassurances from her but let her know you could have, but you havent included it in your application for contact.
Have you tried mediation, courts would have expected you to have exhausted all other avenues before applying to court.... Mediation would be an ideal platform to discuss this and other issues.
Here is a link to the mediation website, it might be worth having a look. www.nfm.org.uk
Good luck with everything 🙂
Hi , I agree with Nannyjane, this chap is no longer around and why put another spanner in the works so to speak. keep it as simple as possible
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