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hi there
currently split up from my partner a while now and basically at first she offered me i could see my daughter either 2 days or nothing at all, which at first got me quite angry with her laying down the rules on what i can and cant do.
so iam seeking advice on me seeing my daughter for longer (3 days min. or joint custody ) but the ex partner has said no, so where do i stand with that?
also would i be entitled to a percentage of the child benefits/tax if i go down the joint custody route or what would i be entitled to?
best regards
Hi apc2010
Firstly welcome to the site. I hope you will find it a helpful place to be.
I'm sorry that you have split up fro your partner and there are problems in seeing your daughter. You are looking into joint custody so you can secure more time with your daughter but this isn't something to be entered into lightly. It may be best if you and your ex can agree to you seeing your daughter more through mediation as a first step. You can get advice about mediation through the Family Mediation Helpline 0845 60 26 627, or through their website http://www.familymediationhelpline.co.uk
You can also get advice about the child benefits/tax issues through the Childrens Legal Centre who you can call on 08088 020 008 and this link tells you more about joint residence.
I hope this helps.
Hi
I would be inclined to take the 2 days for the time being and the see if your ex will agree later on to extend this, ideally through agreement or mediation. The problem you may face is that if you try legal means, you do run the risk of it becoming quite bitter, and potentially protracted, and all the while, unless you could get an interim order, of having no more, and possibly less contact than the 2 days you are being offered.
Child support is paid to the parent who has the child for longest during the week, so you ex will get this. If she stays with you overnight for more than 52 days per year, then you could reduce the maintenance you pay by 1/7th, (2/7ths for 104 days etc), but again, beware of doing this lightly as you may find that your ex suddenly restricts overnight access if she thinks that the maintenance may be reduced.
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