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Well either this saturday or the following saturday I'll be seeing my little guy, it all depends on how quickly I can get things arranged.
I know that I'm lucky that it's only really been a month and a bit since I saw my little guy and we spent a massive amount of time together (Infact the last words he ever screamed were 'daddy I want daddy') but I'm now thinking about the contact centre on the first occasion.
I offered the judge a contact centre since I'm 'such a terrible abuser' but I just wondered if anyone has any tips for when my little guy peeks through the door to see daddy.
I'm aware there might be other families in the room however mum won't be present. I'm planning on bringing 'monkey' who is his best friend and I wouldn't think that after a month and a half he's forgotten me already, however I'm just not sure how a 3 year old will react in a situation like this?
Or better yet, how I will react. I have a stiff upper lip and I know that when time is up then I can walk away buzzing rather than greeting, but does anyone have tips on how to handle the situation when he first walks in?
I'm terrified that he might not remember me or might be unsure of what's going on.
been there....my little one was 3 1/2, it had been about 4mth since i'd spent any time with him.....when he walked in to the room he came straight up and we just started talking...i think it was a toy he'd got in his hand that we started talking about....i then took his coat off him and put his bag n coat down.....told him how much i'd missed him and was so happy to see him.
i put my arms out and he cuddled right in saying he'd missed me too......lump in throat time......we just got on and talked and played with the toys and stuff......the 3hrs flew by so quickly.....hardest part for me was letting him go back to her....knowing what she'd done to stop him seeing me and put me through........
he will remember you...especially monkey i'm sure of it....just follow his lead and you'll be fine
good luck and hope you get to see him soon
I'm in the same boat! My heads already spinning what to do. By it the time I get to see my child it'll have been over 5yrs since I last seen them.
I feel for you fella. I haven't spent any time with my Duaghter since the end of August. My ex seems to take great delight in not letting me see my daughter. I am going through trying to get access, but have had no joy as of yet. I find what makes me laugh the most is that she can move in with another man and there is nothing I can do, yet for me to see my own daughter I have to undergo enhanced CRB checks drug testing and so on just to try and get a court order for contact, yet here is someone my daughter does not know, hasn't brought her up for the first five years of her life and bang another 'Daddy' as my ex keeps calling him. Women, cruel and spiteful!
I feel for you I really do. I know I am very lucky that it has been such a short period of time but I just cannot understand why they do this.
As an example, I have an interlocutor infront of me that says contact MUST start from this saturday. But the contact centre won't even tell me when her appointment is booked for NEXT WEEK, so she's breaking the order at the first attempt!
Beggars belief!
I feel for you fella. I haven't spent any time with my Duaghter since the end of August. My ex seems to take great delight in not letting me see my daughter. I am going through trying to get access, but have had no joy as of yet. I find what makes me laugh the most is that she can move in with another man and there is nothing I can do, yet for me to see my own daughter I have to undergo enhanced CRB checks drug testing and so on just to try and get a court order for contact, yet here is someone my daughter does not know, hasn't brought her up for the first five years of her life and bang another 'Daddy' as my ex keeps calling him. Women, cruel and spiteful!
its disgusting mate.....my ex has done the exact same but for the last 2, 1/2yrs....oh and married him and had his baby too!!!!
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