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Hi,
I'm new here and would like a little help in discovering what options I have with this dilema.
I split from my long term partner on Feb 12th this year after the relationship was more for convienience and I was becoming unhappy with the way my ex viewed the relationship and how I was treated. The final straw came when she addmitted that there was no love in the relationship and if it wasn't for money then we wouldn't be together at all. We have a five year old daughter who I love dearly.
I moved, for a short while, back to my parents whilst I got everything sorted that I needed to and in this time access to my daughter was fine. I visited my daughter at my ex's home and, when work allowed, I collected her from school. Things between me and my ex were not too bad, we accepted what had happened between us and that we would be amicable and get on.
Recently, I have met someone else. And since this news reached my ex, all [censored] has broken loose. My ex doesn't want our daughter to meet my new girlfriend or go anywhere near her home and now refuses me any form of contact with my daughter. I cannot see her or can I collect her from school. She has told the school not to let my daughter be collected by me. My ex won't even let my daughter stop at her grandmothers house for fear of me taking my daughter to my new girlfriends house. I cannot even talk to my daughter on the phone. It's almost like I will never see her again whilst I am with the woman i'm with.
All I want to do is the same as any father and see my little girl and be a dad to her. I seriously am considering any form of action (legally) that will solve this issue and let me see my daughter.
Any help or advice would be most welcome.
You need to contact your ex and suggest mediation - no doubt she will want to restrict access to you only, but unless she has genuine reason to worry about your daughters welfare (which I'm sure she hasn't) then it is unreasonable for her to expect this. If she refuses mediation, or you can't reach an agreement, then the next step is to go for a contact order. Unfortunately, there is no other way you can enforce contact. Have a read through the forum - you aren't the first man, by any means, to have this problem.
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