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My wife and I want to separate and I'd like to leave the family home. But I am worried when I move out she will not agree to reasonable contact arrangements for our 8 year old son.
Should I insist on a formal contact agreement before moving out?
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...Thats a definate yes from me too.
If you take a look on the Mediation website you'll find lots of useful information. Go to the website and look on the left hand column where you'll see a link called "support me I'm... hover over that and another box will open, click on Separating and it will open a page, scroll down until you reach "Making Terms of Separation legal" and theres some information that relates to your question there.
Heres a link to their website ~ www.nfm.org.uk
Good luck with everything 🙂
Definitely get all arrangements in writing and formally agreed before leaving the family home.
Do it legally.....if its just a signed agreement between the two of you it won't stop her stopping contact! its not legally binding from what i understand.
i know this as i had drafted up the same with my ex before i walked out!
i'm now coming up to 2 yrs in to my battle to keep in to my son in my life......she started messing me around when she met her new fella after i left (about 7-8mths after!) but when she didn't get her way contact was interuppted...then stopped as n when she decided to....it all revolved around her promoting the new guy in to my sons life to exclude and hurt me.....and yes i can prove it all....she's not as clever as she thought she was....she admitted it in messages.
Don't forget.....if this turns nasty and mud starts getting thrown around...don't get drawn in to it....keep records and notes....they will help you if you ever need to take it to the level some of us on here have been forced to do.
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