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Quick update.
I have a contact order for weekends contact. Got this at beginning of Oct and havnt seen my son since. Enforcement proceedings are already in the courts hands but I received a text last night stating not to attend my exs property as she and our son are scared. She's been advised (by who I don't know as she doesn't have a solicitor) not to stick to the court order. I am certain they will use the scared tactic in court although they have absolutely no evidence to back this up as I havnt even spoke to her for weeks. Should I carry on attending her property to collect my son as per court order? Even though I won't be able to get him. Or will this just aggravate the situation?
Thanks
I would proceed with great caution, having asked you not to attend at the property you might find that she will call the police if you ignore her request and turn up.
Have you got a family member that you could arrange to pick your son up? Perhaps write to her and remind her that she is in breach and that if she doesn't want you to attend at the property then she needs to arrange an alternative before the next contact visit. Suggest you meet in a public place or she drops him off with you.
As you have enforcement proceedings underway then it might be better, if you get no response from the letter (if you write one) you leave it for the courts to sort out.
You could try calling the police and ask them if they will attend with you to make sure that a situation doesn't arise, tell them you have a contact order. They might, they might not.....
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