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Hi all,
I'm due in court on Friday for the bar report results. Sadly, mother has decided to conjure up some last minute stuff from my past.
Although some of it is true she has added extra bits, not to mention that the most recent incident was 5 years ago and long before we met.
I have a breach of the peace which is due to become spent in three days. Where I was convicted of impersonating a fire officer. Although I was part of the fire service at the time and it's not terribly accurate I was daft and plead guilty for something I didn't do out of sheer terror - Something I came to regret.
I'm absolutely terrified that the reporter will suggest contact should stop as my character was poor way back then. As a result of the above incident she has also alleged that I pretended to be a paramedic to someone that had fallen in a shopping centre.
I couldn't even tell you what CPR is let alone how to do it! I have absolutely no medical training and she has absolutely no evidence of this, it's just sheer lies.
Any suggestions?!
Personally, I would say you can't do any more than tell the absolute truth, admitting what you did (but it was an isolated incident and you haven't done anything since) and denying calmly her allegations since - ultimately, there's nothing else you can do. At least you are prepared for it in advance, so can prepare as best as is possible, but in any event, you can argue that the event 5 years ago was a mistake of your youth and shouldn't affect your contact.
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