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If you read my blog in my profile you will see I am going through a really tough time.
I have a dilemma though.
Since my children were born I have been the house husband and my wife went to work. I have all the child benefit in my name and the tax credits are a joint claim.I live in a four bedroom house. I have 2 children with my wife aged 5 and 3, and 2 children with my ex-wife aged 13 and 15. They all live with me.
Last week my wife has separated from me, moved house and has taken the 2 children. She dictates that I get them from Wednesday to Saturday. She is also changing the claim to my child benefit and tax credits and says she is now the parent with residential rights.
I do not have a job, as a father, I have been their main carer.
My wife works full time as a debt collector. When it is her turn to have the kids she takes them on her collections with her!!!!
I really dont like the idea of them being treated like this and wondered what rights I have to have all the children resident with me again and for her to have access.
My childrens step brother and sister still live with me and they miss their little brother and sister loads.
This is tearing me apart.
Without the income from the tax credits and child benefit I will see even less of my kids 🙁
The was no infidelity. She just said she fell out of love. We are still really good friends and very amicable. Raising this issue with her is going to open a can of worms I know it. 🙁
Hi there,
This must be a very distressing time for you....I've had a look at your blog and I must tell you that if your situation escalates and you find yourself thinking of going to court for residency you need to depersonalise your posts here. It's better to keep an anonymity about yourself and your situation.
It good that you and your wife remain on good terms and whilst you are "playing ball" this will likely continue, but once you start to open that can of worms things are likely to change.
Couples split up and usually the children go with the mother and very occasionally the father. In your case there are four children and they have been separated, and to my mind this is wrong. The accepted principle as far as this is concerned is that the children should be kept together if at all possible. If you are going to go for residency this would be the strength n your case. It doesn't matter that they are half siblings, their well being as a unit is of equal importance as it would be if they were full siblings I the eyes of the family courts. The other concerning issue is that the children are being taken to work with the mother and this isn't in their best interests either.
If you want the children back, without your wife's agreement on this your only option is to apply for a residence order through the courts. If you take a look at the top of the Legal Eagle section you will find some stickys...Three YouTube videos about the forms and the hearings, two stickys about representing yourself and one about the C100 form which is the form you would use to apply for residence.
You might want to think about Mediation, although when residency is on the line, reaching an agreement on such matters is not likely.
Nanny Jane.... you allways say the 'right' things 😉 and have helped so many people.
wwobuk - good luck in your mission
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