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I have a contact order that has been in place since last September and all has been ok up until this weekend. I picked up my child who is 6 this morning as normal and he seemed very tired and not himself, he then told me his mummy is in Spain for 5 days and his sister who is 21 (not my daughter)is looking after him. My ex has not told me anything about this and I have no clue when she is back in the country.
I'm assuming my child is tired as his routine is now all over the place and he was trying to fall asleep at 3pm today. The question I have is I have a contact order which states the mother is to pick up the child from me after every visit, this is not going to happen tomorrow as she is out of the country, I also have fears that my child will be tired for school on Monday if his sister is looking after him and i don't know who else is looking after him?
My ex has residency of our child and thinks she has the right to walk all over me and do as she pleases, she has broken so many of the court order rules over the past few months but i have just let them go rather than rock the boat, but i'm getting to the point when i need to do something.
Would you do anything or just let it go?? She is a very volatile person who has an evil streak and will no doubt try and get her revenge if I dared to question how she was bringing up our child who she has residency of.
Hi David and welcome.
To be honest, I can't see that a court would be too impressed if you tried to do anything about the fact that your ex's daughter collected your son rather than his mother - realistically, what would you expect to achieve. Your ex has made arrangements which are adequate under the circumstances, so I don't think it's worth making anything of this.
However, if you ex is in the habit of breaking the contact order regularly, then I would keep a diary and consider enforcement for those breaches.
Perhaps if you write her a letter. You don't have to question her abilities just ask that she adheres to what is written within the contact order. You could ask that in the future she discusses childcare with you if she intends to leave your son, and mention his tiredness at the contact visit. Maybe offer to have him next time. 🙂
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