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Im looking for some advice. I have been apart from my ex wife for 2 years and see the children every wed for 3 hours. This has been a struggle as she has put up every obstacle imaginable. She has agreed that I can take the children away for 2 nights (my first over night) and im taking them about 30 mins to a caravan site. The children are 15 and 12. My ex wife is a complete control freak and is now refusing to let me take them away unless she has an address and checks it out before we leave!! I have not been to court re: custody and access so presume we both have joint parental responsibility? Can she refuse to let me have the children for these 2 nights? She takes the children away frequently but never advices me where! thanks. rob
TO the best of my knowledge, as they live with her, she has control over contact - the CLC will confirm this. However, I would suggest that you speak to your children and seek their views - at 12 and 15, their opinions are going to count for a lot in court, so if they want to go with you, then I'd say that you should be going to mediation, and if no success, then for a contact order.
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I am going to pass on your question to our Legal team, it may take a little while for them to post back. As previously posted, your children are 15 and 12 and it seems right that they should be able to have a say in what they want to do and whether they want to see you. It may be in your best interests, and of course those of your children, to get a contact order in place so that you are all clear about when and where you can take your children.
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