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Hi I have been married 11 yrs and have to wonderful children my wife is South African and a few months ago we seperated with no chance of reconciliation. My wife now wants me to sign papers allowing her to take the children to South Africa, the children are 6yrs and 3yrs. I work very long hours and only get home at 8pm but I speak to the children everyday on skype and see them twice a week. I know this doesn't sound much but because my wife is so aggresive when I go round to see the children I feel I can't put them through more than they already are. The reason for the aggresion is that she is determined to take the children and hounds me constantly, at work at home when I'm round seeing the children. I managed to find accommodation just around the corner from the children so I would be accessable, I rent a room in a house owned by a young couple with a small child. The problem is my wife is on a mission to cause me as much aggro as she can and I can't risk the young couple becoming subjected to her abuse as they would ask me to leave. Consequently I cant give her my address. I am footing all her bills including putting diesel in the car and paying for the running of it I've also paid for her and the children to go to SA to visit family to try and make life easier for her. I just don't know where to turn has anyone any advise to help me keep my children in the country. Do I have a chance do you think, is there something I could do to encourage the court to not allow the children to emigrate. Any advice would be welcome
They are from her solicitors granting her permission to take the children to South Africa to live
Hi
I would say that you do have a chance, and to be honest, it seems to me that you have absolutely nothing to lose by trying. Have a read of yoji's guides at the top of the legal section.
Personally - I wouldn't sign them
No way would I let someone - even their mother - take my children from me like that.
I second what ACTD suggests and think you should take a look at the guides Yoji has posted at the top of the forum. I did note that you mentioned that you were seperated? Do you already have a solicitor?
You need to keep a document of eveything; conversations, texts, etc. If you feel that it's necessary you can apply to the court for a Prohibitive Steps Order (PSO), which will prevent your ex from taking the children out of the country.
FM '70
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