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I hve a basically amicable relationship with my daughters mother, and my daughter spends part of every weekend with me. I also have as much contact during the week as I want. We made our arrangements without the need for lawyers etc, and I pay approximately what the CSA would require, as well as Stagecoach fees and other sundry things. I also do all the driving - about an hour each way, twice every weekend.
Where a reasonable amout of money is being paid by the father, would the transportation usually be shared? What would a court usually dictate in these circumstances? If the driving continues not to be shared, would a reduction in the amount of money paid be reasonable?
I think the technical answer relating to costs and the CSA calculation are more or less irrelevant - the arrangement you have seems to be working and I would say that if you try to force the issue, you could turn the whole situation bad. I really would try to talk this through with your ex to see if there is some compromise that can be found.
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