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... but at the moment you don’t have a legally binding agreement by court order. That’s why it was suggested that this might be something to consider. At least with a court order you can ask for your work commitments to be respected and for contact to happen at a more suitable time.
You can't be forced to look after your children, so I would suggest that you speak to the school and see what they can do to help with this.
if your ex carries on being a pain like this, then you should aim for a court order. frankly you should tell her you can go to court over this and there will be a solid arrangement in place, and it could be something she will not like at all 😉
for me, i can reach my kids school in 30 minutes or less if theres no train problems. i finish work at 4pm. so leaving at 3pm is not a big deal for my boss. a 2 hour journey to pick up the kids sounds awful.
I spoken to the school and NSPCC helpline but both sent me for legal advice.
I scheduled initial meeting with mediator already so I will start a formal process asap.
However I still need a help where to report her behaviour before court or mediation have place or even after
If you want to pursue some kind of formal complaint you would speak to Social Services.
You could make an urgent application to court for a Specific Issue Order, at the same time as a Child Arrangements Order, stating that the urgency is because your ex is threatening to abandon your children and you need an interim order to prevent that, whilst the application for child arrangements is progressing.
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