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Hi all.
I am new to this forum,and I am very desperate for some help/advise.
I will try and make it as short as possible !
In Nov last year I threw a chair at a closed door in which the ex was behind it,she fell over I did NOT hit her etc,she reported me for section 39 assult and in Jan this year I was charged and she was awarded an indefinite restraining order.
She and I still stayed amicable she dropped my daughter off etc,but 10 weeks ago she stopped me from seeing her as her new partner must have something to do with it.
3 weeks ago she got a PSO from the courts stating that I can't take my daughter from the house etc,which is fine,but the courts did NOT say I can't see my daughter which is killing me,now 10 weeks on and I am at my witts end.
I can see my daughter as the solicitor has confirmed but the ex wont let me,I use to drink not over the top nor in front of my daughter and she is using this as an excuse I think.
I want contact with my daughter but the solicitor now says she wants £3,000 on account to take it to court...
Any advise would be very very welcome how I can get a contact order if that is what it is.
Many thanks.
Jimmy
Hi Jimmy,
I don't really have any experience of many of the points you raise. Basically, you do need the contact order, as you are already aware, and this is the only way you are going to be able enforce contact. However, you need to try mediation first, especially as you and your ex were amicable until recently - it's just possible that you may agree a solution, and a court would normally want to see that you have at least attempted to negotiate.
One of the moderators will hopefully pass this across to the Childrens Legal Centre for any comments they can make, but because you already have a solicitor appointed, they are very limited to what they are able to say - basically, your solicitor should be advising you of what steps you need to take.
One final point - take a look at http://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org/2005 ... r-fathers/ - you may find it useful, and if you do decide to participate, it certainly can't harm your application to the court.
Hi.
Many thanks for the info.
I can't afford a solicitor anymore,so I have done the c100 for myself (£200) and handed it in.
She won't even talk to any of my family,so mediation is out.
Jimmy
Hi Jimmy
I'm sorry to hear about this situation. It sounds as if you are going through a tough time right now.
I have passed your comments on to the Children's Legal Centre for their reply but please bear in mind it may take a couple of days or so for their response.
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