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I separated from my wife a year ago and although things have been difficult I have picked myself up, found a property and see my 4 year old daughter 2/3 times per week. My ex has recently started seeing a real nasty piece of work who seems intent on removing me from their lives.
I received a letter last week stating that my ex was reducing access due to our daughter being unsettled. I wasn't happy with this so as I dropped my daughter off on Sunday night I left her in the car and went and asked my ex if I could have a quiet word. She refused and told me to bring our daughter to her. Her partner then flung a torrent of abuse at me and threatened to assault me. Luckily I had my phone on record. I decided I didn't want to drop my daughter there because of his behaviour so I took her to my ex's parents up the road.
I received another letter today stating that due to my actions I am non longer allowed to see my daughter.
I am in bits, please help, is there anything I can do. How can she just stop me seeing my daughter when I was acting in her best interest?
Should I reply to her solicitor explaining the situation and telling them I have audio of myself being threatened on the night in question?
PLEASE PLEASE HELP!
Hi there,
Welcome to the site.
I would contact the solicitor and explain that due to the actions of your ex's partner you didn't feel happy walking your daughter up to the house as you felt threatened by her ex and feared what may happen also that to remove the issue and to stop your daughter witnessing what was happening that dropping her up the road was better.
You could tell them that you have the recording but they "may" counter that with claims you wanted to provoke something and that's why you recorded the conversation.
If the ex threatened you it may be worth also having this recorded with the police so that if anything were to happen you have i on record that the threat was made, and it also logs it in case you end up in court to get access back. The police don't have to act on the report but having it on record would
back you up for your actions of dropping your daughter up the road instead.
As for getting access back, within the letter tell the solicitor that you would like to meet with your ex in mediation to try and resolve the issues and get contact sorted.
Hopefully mediation will work and you can gain a good agreement of contact but if it doesn't you can go to court and show the judge you have tried to resolve things without having to go to court.
Darren
I would definitely report this to the police - having it down officially may help you later on, and if it happens again, then the police have it as a pattern, rather than the first time.
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