[Solved] urgent non molestation contact residenc everything

hi my wife left me and tok our 2 children only seen my kids for 1 hour since june in a horrible supervised visit to a soft play with her mam and dad it was ment to be for two hours with me giving them there tea my children are 1 and 4.5 the place stopped serving hot food and my son who is fussy eater wanted chips i advised my inlaws that it would be best after hour to take them home for tea thinking i was being good parent and seeing my childrens needs came first before mine as i could of stayed 2 hours then they would be rushing round to sort there teas out . 2 days later message from wifes solictor contact didnt go well also can we change dates for next meeting as wifes father cant make it no mention of this on the contact meeting felt i was being mucked around straight away i said to my solictor i feel we should go to mediation and sort this out legally then no mucking round and said il wait for contact until then. my wife slapped a non molestation order on me before i was due to go to mediation now meditor feel medition is no good so having no contact at all. im getting to residence bit my wife has m.e which she is on disabiity for i have copy of her forms which she states she has trouble getting out of bed wont cook as she is scared to use knifes hot pans says she has trouble climbing stairs and struggles to get ready she also states she would rather starve than use effort to go to kitchen to make herself something could i use this to get residence and would it be a good case

posted 2 messages before but there not the best i have written i need help just seem im in same position i was 9 weeks ago
i need info on what to do

my wife left me on june 6th out of blue we fell out over me putting my son on naughty chair but she now claims i have mentally bullied him by telling him off when he is naughty for all my wife wife has told him off for same things so she took my son and daughter to her mams not been back since.
since it came out of blue and a man in love i sent her texts and phoned her sent her flowers begging to work it out no chance silly i posted on twitter my story how much i missed my wife kids how i couldnt believe what happened she saw this in july and got a non molestation order against me
i have seen my kids once for 1 hour since june i cant ring to see how they are or talk to them my son is 4.5 and daughter is 1 i have been in there life everyday feeding dressing them playing with them as my wife has m.e so been very hands on
i went to court regarding non molestatio order i was advised untaking it best thing to do not sayig it was true or saying it was wrong but it woud get it reduced and told to ask if i could ring wife to speak with kids and also allow us to go to mediation as with non molestation order it was hard to go sit in same room it was refused and ws told i could have undertaking base on non molestation order only to which i said i would contest order as i felt there was no grounds for this order and it had been put there as a smoke screen it took my wife 44 days to get this so was not that scared by me.
how do i fight it i want to go to mediation i just want to see my kids

Hi

Firstly, I have merged three of your threads together - it would be helpful for us to follow if you could keep to a single thread when discussing the same thing rather than creating different threads on the same subject.

I'm afraid that the best advice I can give at the moment is that you discuss this with your solicitor and follow his advice - from what you have said, you are in danger of making matters worse if it comes to court. I would say (but see what your solicitor says) that unless there are welfare concerns for your children, then you have virtually no chance of residence, I don't think your ex having M.E would preclude her from keeping residence, and she would probably be entitled to assistance from the authorities to assist. Your biggest problem at the moment is the N.M.O as this is going to overshadow any proceedings for contact, and you may well have to accept that for a time, contact may be supervised - discuss this with your solicitor, but you may be best concentrating on a plan to have supervision reduced over a period of time.

i have a 1 year old and 4 year old been hands on since they were born how easy is it to get shared residence/custody my wife has m.e so would benifit her plus children are very young so would benifit them knowing there daddy and im self employed so can be flexible for them

Hi,

I think that ACTD has already advised on this in your previous post.

FM '70

Similar case to mine. Hope it worked out for you.

I'm seeking shared residency and have a NMO (with no facts of finding).

The issue is between you and your wife. If you're not living together no issue. Unless she starts accusing you of DV towards your children. If you have a home and live close enough to your wife so them traveling to be with you doesn't have a drastic impact, then try for shared residency.

Better to try then not to try and live with regret.