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Hi
I have been reading through and have similar situation.
The contact order I have was issued last year after a lengthy battle!
The order was initially for 4 hours every other weekend, with the contact supervised by my partner.
My children now come every other weekend and stay overnight.
I'd like to get the supervision removed, but their mother won't agree.
It was initially put in place to in my opinion appease the mother as we had full assessments which stated I posed no risk, originally allegation was over one single discipline issue.
Do I need to ask the mother to go to mediation before doing anything else?
Thanks
Hi and welcome to the forum
I would say that mediation is probably the best place to start as it may just nudge your ex into agreeing, especially if she realises that if she doesn't, then you would be prepared to go to court to get the order varied. Just to clarify - I presume this means that your ex also comes to stay when the children do?
It's my new partner that acts a supervisor.
I will try mediation but my ex believes she is not able to agree as maybe held responsible by social services
If you agree at mediation and then get it written into a court order, then your ex should have no issues as she's complying with the contact order.
Hi, how quickly things change!
My son has said he wants unsupervised contact and that he has spoken to his mother.
I have then spoken to his mother who's reply is 'take me back to court'.
The last time I was in court (represent myself) the judge said to write if a review was needed.
Is there any key information you think I should include when asking for the review?
Thanks in anticipation 🙂
Hi Ozziebug,
I have no first hand experience of asking for a review. As you don't have legal representation, I would recommend that you speak with the Coram Children's Legal Centre (CCLC) for some free advice about how to proceed. There's a link to their website at the foot of this page, which will direct you to their contact details including a freephone number and free webchat facility.
If you require advice urgently, they're always the best bet for a fairly immediate response (as long as you don't already have a solicitor).
Cheers,
FM '70
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