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i will post a full story on this thread when I get around to it but on average how long would one expect to wait to recive a reply from a law firm in regarding contact matters my ex has said i have tried to abduct my eldest child twice collect him from school once with out her permission and that i have been threatening towards her
she offered contact centre visits 2 hours a week this to me is really a poor offer as i have been an acive farther in both my childrens live since day 1
i replyed rejecting this out of hand
then a few days later i sent her sol another letter with what i was offering for way of contact this was hand deliverd to her sol's office's on the 13th of this monh with the first date i requested a das worth of contact being the 21st as i hough asking for any sooner would be pushing it i rang her sol on the 17th to ask how long it would take for a response and was told that her sol had not read it yet
ialsohad put in i would like to have them again the following sunday which is the 29th no i had forgot that my grandmohers birthday was falling in this month on the 27th i would now like to have it include this date aswell but feel its going to fall on deaf ears as it has taken so long for them to even read it any ideas on time frame the or i should be looking at
Hi Farndon,
i have posted a couple of times recently regarding my frustrations at my own solicitor and prior to this when I was handling my own affairs my ex's solicitor was nearly as bad. I would start to look at what you consider to be a reasoinable time to deal with simple matters of communication on a different scale, if you dont you will only be constantly frustrated. From my experience a week would be a very optimistic timescale for your sol to read, dictate a letter to her sol, her sol to contact your ex, dictate and then for your sol to get back to you. Even 2 weeks would be a result in my experience. Its a sad state of affairs but solicitor seem to see e-mail as a magical mysterious thing and perhaps its the need for an evidential paper trail that leads them to do most communication by letter, their time seems to be on a different level to most people unless there are really urgent issues then they may jump.
Hope you get things sorted!
it was a letter i wrote but thanks for the response guess i was just expecting her sol to actually read and respond in the same time it tuck for them to send me the letter out that she wanted
Did you put in your letter that you would expect a response within a specific time? If not, I would do so in future - personally, I would say that 14 days would be reasonable to expect a response - they do have to contact your ex (their client) and agree a response. However, it's not unknown for a solicitor to move slowly if there is no reason for them not to do so, which is why putting in a reasonable timescale in the letter forces the issue.
its something i did not think to put in the letter as i had put a date in there that i would have liked to have the kids on i also had a 2nd date in there but its some thing i would be including in any further communications with them
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