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My partner left with the two children two weeks ago. Having spent the last 9 & 4 years along side them i am devastated that they are not around me and i in their company. My ex partner is living now close by with her new partner she was a having an affair with. We are trying to sort out something amicable in the long term best interest for the children. Little progress so far, its difficult to separate the anger and emotion and concentrate on the issue. the children. Now i have been a stay at home dad for at least the last 3 years, and have just about delt with everything that my 4 year old can throw at me. Now that contact has all gone. Inside i am devastated but got to keep going. I have this awful feeling inside that i am supposed to keep away from them. I was wondering what is the issue if i see them wondering along, (obviously i am not going to ignore them), i am a normal dad, can i go to the school to see them? My ex has lined up her mum to do school runs, pick ups etc that i once did. I feel that i have no rights but want to see them. Today i saw for the first time my ex in our car with her new man in the front and kids in back. Just awful. Is it okay to approach the children etc, an i within my rights? I would add that there is no restraining orders, criminal record or restrictions imposed. Simply the ex has left for someone else. Any thoughts? Feel like a stalker otherwise.
Hi eskimojoe
Sorry to hear your bad news, how are you coping? Have you spoken to your ex and told her how you feel?
If so what was her reaction? If it helps we have a legal eagle page you can read on. Also I can speak to our
advisers to reply to you personally on your post.
http://www.dadtalk.co.uk/articles/legal_eagle.php
JJ
Hi Eskimojoe
I know that our legal experts responded to your other thread about your situation - https://www.dadtalk.co.uk/forum/viewtopic.php?t=398
As JJ says we will ask them to comment on the following
I was wondering what is the issue if i see them wondering along, (obviously i am not going to ignore them), i am a normal dad, can i go to the school to see them? My ex has lined up her mum to do school runs, pick ups etc that i once did. I feel that i have no rights but want to see them.
take care
In my opinion, I wouldn't do anything without first telling your ex you are doing so - you are still at the stage where negotiation is the best option - it's worth suggesting mediation. I'd do this as fast as possible so that your children don't go without you for too long.
Dear eskimojoe
It appears from your previous post that you only currently have parental responsibility for one of your children. Technically, you are in a position where you could go to the school to pick up the child for whom you have parental responsibility however this often can often cause further tension between parents and therefore it is not something we would suggest. Additionally, if the school have been informed by your ex-partner that she does not wish you to pick the children up then the school do have a discretion to decide whether or not to release the children to you.
You state in your post that it has been arranged that the children’s grandmother should pick the children up from school. If this is the case then if you are appearing at the school regularly when the children are being picked up by their grandmother then your ex-partner’s mother may report the matter to the police as this sometimes can constitute harassment.
We appreciate this situation must be frustrating however it is a good idea to arrange with your ex-partner any days which you wish to collect your children from school. We would strongly recommend that you look at the options we have previously suggested in our previous advice (<!-- l viewtopic.php?t=398<!-- l ) of mediation and also the possibility of applying for a contact order.
If you require clarification on the advice we have provided please contact the Child Law Advice Line on freephone 08088 020 008.
Kind regards
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