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I have been seperated from my Ex for over 10 years and divorced for 2. We have a son of 13 and daughter of 15 they both live with her. I have regular access and see them every other weekend and whenever they want to drop into the house. My son recently got into trouble with the Police and I found out through a third party. When I asked my Ex why she hadn't told me she said I had no right to know and all I needed to know was what she told me. Obviously my Son didn't want me to know as he is 13 and didin't want to get into troble with me as well.
What I need to know is, can my Ex withold information like that from me?
Thanks
I presume that you have PR (married when they were born and on the birth certificates?) so strictly speaking, she cannot withhold the information.
However, realistically, the question is what do you do if she does withhold? I think it's a case where you really need to try to talk with your ex, but also with your children - explain that it's better that you do know and can support them, rather than not knowing where you can do nothing. If you can build up that level of trust, then what your ex does or does not do becomes irrelevant.
Hi, yes I do have PR and have spoken to both my kids. My daughter tries not to get involved and I understand that but they both understand that I need to know whats going on. The Ex is going to be stubborn and stick to her guns. I wouldn't mind if I kept out of their lives but I am very actively involved in what they do and always there for them.
Part of me wants to dig my heals in when she asks for help and say no, but that would only backfire on the kids.
Thanks for the advice and I will keep up my communication with the kids.
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