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hi everyone i have just split up with my wife and i got 2 kids my wife claims i have never been there for my kids and she says i have hurt my kids and there is no way she will show the kids to me if i dont take her to court to be able to see my kids.she has cheating on me with other man well she was txting this guy and i find out they was seen each order for a nearly month.i am missing my kids so much and i have to return back to my own country when i find out this is happening i mean my wife want to be with somebody else.i couldnt stay anywhere due no place to stay.she got everything house,money and she left me with nothing.i lost my job.i will be returning to uk and want to take her to court coz she called me bad names and telling me i am a bad dad to my kids and i hurt them and she even said i got a picture you left a black theeth mark on older son so i will show this at court and u got no chance to see your kids.i will never hurt my kids they my everything she is blame me for everything.i dont know where i stand and i am my own when i get back to uk i find a job and somewhere to stay i never wanted to leave my kids but i had to earn some money to be able to go back and work in the uk for my kids.my older kid going to be 3 and my litte one going to be 1 soon.my ex wife making everything harder and harder.even she told me if i came near her house to see the kids her new boyfriend will going to hurt me and she will call the police on me to take me a way from her house.missing my kids so much i do not really care what she do with this man but my kids are my world to me and there is nothing i can do to see my kids???i really dont know where to start and what to do?i am scared she says she got some photos maybe fake ones maybe she done them but how can i prove they not mine.legal advice cost so much in the uk i am not saying i am not going to get one but at the moment i need to earn some more money.i want to be there for my kids.she told me one day take the kids a way and go to your own country i dont want you all here and i just gone out to let her calm down.i know how much this will hurt her if i do that but look at her she is happy to hurt me.sometimes i am saying i wish i have done it now.i hope u all understanding my english as i am not english but i am a dad all like u on here maybe from not uk but i live in the uk.i left my everything to be there for my kids and want to see them grow up and want to see they smile please help me....
Hi and welcome on here
Normally the first step is to try mediation, but this can cost more than court and you can give the cost as a reason why you are not going to mediation (and also it sounds as though your ex is unlikely to be willing to compromise anyway). You need to read yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal section as this is probably going to be the best way to go, on costs alone - however, you are going to need to be in this country to be able to attend court as you wouldn't have a solicitor representing you, and also, since you are going to be applying for a contact order, you are going to need to show the court that you can be available for regular contact. Otherwise you could ask for indirect contact initially (letters, cards, phone calls, skype) initially, to be extended to (probably) supervised contact and then later on, maybe unsupervised contact.
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