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In anticipation of going to court, I'm thinking of what kind of evidence I should be preparing?
So far I have:
- Written statements from various individuals regarding the relationship with my son and I and the effect they think loosing his dad would have on him.
- Various pictures of his room and days out with and without mum
- General info and facts
I have thousands of text messages and emails etc but I'm not sure what I should be getting....
Hi mate
Best of luck with your court case really wish you the best result
Best advise i can give after being in court myself is to focus on the need of the child produced eveidence that the child is the reason for being in court and what you are applying for in in the best interests of the child.
Avoid a mud slinging completion courts not interested in how you or mum feels what was said or who did what to how. Court is interested in the needs of the child. My focus was on my child last time i was in court. Mums focus was on how upset she was and mud slinging a pack of lies to slander me to the judge.
I won and now have custody of my daughter
Hope this helps
Just been reading your earlier posts and you brought a tear to my eye. Think the effort your putting in is awesome chin up really behind you 😉
Thanks guys, I'm putting everything behind this. I'm very lucky that my boss is letting me stay off work (paid) because he knows how [censored] much my son means to me.
Mediation and solicitor letters are on their way so fingers crossed (But I highly doubt it)
One thing I've been trying to keep myself busy with is this......
formysonreece.blogspot.co.uk
just a thought.....i'm sure you know but whatever you're thinking of producing at court you will need to submit to the court and you ex/ex's legal rep at least 3-5day (working days) i'd give it a week with the postal service!
Oh ofcourse, I'm just curious for ideas as to what exactly I should be coming out with....
Where in a criminal trial you would have statements, CCTV, a physical item etc
So far I've just got pictures of him and I, with and without mum on days out, pictures of his room and my home in general, statements and just a 6 page document of facts.
the advice i was given is stick with the truth...and back up any of your defence with hard evidence....the courst have seen it all before so don't worry too much.
stick to your points...don't get drawn into the mud slinging the other side will try to get you in to.
if anything in your statements you can prove by way of hard evidence....messages/emails etc... copy and use at court but make sure you have copies for the other side.
alos you should have a copy of her statement well in advance o court...use it as your tool to ounter her points...make lots of notes against each point so that you know how to challenge them or answer the other sides questioning
good luck and keep us updated
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