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I get somebody to try and talk some sense to my ex? that we get this issue resolved quickly and get on raising the our daugher
I am and my parents are instructed not to make any contact with herby my solicitors which I fully agree wth and adhere too. I log any call she makes to me and my parents and file it with time date and content to my solicitor. But we all worry about her, we saw how this affected her in court last week, she was in a full mental melt down.
I know it makes me look good, but I dont want that, she is a good mum to her boys, from the 8 months we were together she did evrything for them with a little help from me, the boys and my girl are well apparently, and boys are happy to be back 'home' and back at school from which she took them out of in may before flitting out of town.
I think everything is getting on top of her and it showed by the way she acted, she has lost her legal aid because of her moving around and I am seriously thinking that is not all she could lose if she carries on the way she is doing.
Yes I did what I think all parents would do and raise the concerns with social services, here at 'home' and when she did a flit to the social services there. I am a concerned parent like any other.
But I repeat, I do not want her to have her boys taken into care and I get to look after my girl, I just want to help raise her to be a happy normal girl.
So should I see if one of my close family friends (female) make contact on my behalf, and that of my parents too, to express that I just want to be part of my girls life, have my parental rights and be on her BC so she will always know that I am her dad.
Love any input on this.
Pete
I truly understand how you feel Pete but you have to be careful right now, and if you have been told not to make contact with her by your solicitor then I think you should adhere to that.
Social Services are very reluctant to take children away from their mothers, it takes a lot...believe me I know! If they feel that your ex is struggling they are far more likely to try and help her by providing extra support.
Perhaps when its all over and the case is finished you can try and help her. At the moment I would try and hold firm and not let your good intentions muddy the water.
Yeah I see that entirely, not the first person to say as such to me, just hate to see what happened last week. and fear for them all.
We had an episode with her with a tumble dryer my parents bought for her when 'princess' was born, we kept getting the manufacturers calling, recoreded letters, and finally an engineer round. each time explained it was a gift and it was at this address. he went round and then reported back he never got into to see the dryer as she was going mental.
Said that was harassment, where if she had contacted us and told us it was fixed or it was safe and a ok, then it woud not have gone as far as it did. We even saw the local Fire service who knew about the 'fault' that the makers had declared and sent out info on the matter.
All we were concerned wsas for their safety yet that was seen as harassment. A simple reply to us showing us that it has been checked out via our solicitor at the time would have sorted it all out but that was to much to ask at the time.
When read 'fault can lead to fire' you automatically think the worst and just want to make sure they are all safe, that was 6 people in the house altogether.
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