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Hi,
I was wondering if you could give me some advice?
I seperated from my wife this time last year. The kids are living with her and I get to see them very regularly, this past year they have stayed over for 110 days. She has previously been admitted to hospital within the past year, and her new partner was left to look after my two children. Within a few days it became apparent that he was not capable of looking after the children and it was agreed between myself and my ex that the children stayed with me for the duration of her hospital stay and until she had recovered sufficiently to look after them.
This repeated on a seperate occassion where she wished to take her mother out for the night and grew very concerned and anxious about our childrens welfare, so I took the children for the night.
This again repeated recently when my ex suffered from a severe bought of depression and the children stayed with me, at her request, for about a month. They have been back with her for only two weeks.
She is due to have an operation in the next few weeks and tonight decided that everything was ok and that I need not to have the children for this occassion. I am greatly concerned for the welfare of my children being left in her partners sole care whilst she is in hospital. Do I have any rights so I can have the children with me until she is fit enough to look after them?
My children are 5 and 10. my son (10) has several issues such as ADHD, dysphraxia, dyslexia, specific learning difficulties and is on medication. with this my son has known to have anger issues and the last time that my son and my ex's new partner took care of him there was a significant fight, which ended up with a glass being broken in my sons bedroom, which I had to clean up several hours later once my son was allowed to call me.
Any advice would be benificial.
Many thanks
Barry
Hi Barry , im presuming you are on the childrens birth certificate and have parental responsibility. Is there any court orders ? Im not sure how you stand legally as i do know if they reside with the mum she controls what happens, but in this case its obvious the children will be better off with you whilst the mum gets better. why is she saying the children dont need to be with you, what arrangements as she made, is she scared you wont give them back. I think you can do an emergancie court hearing to allow the children to be with you but i expect this will have to involve the ss . I would ask her again
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