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Hey everyone. Me and my wife are currently going through a divorce and we have out 18month daughter stuck bang in the middle. We have been seperated for well over a month now and within that time I have seen my daughter once, for 3 hours and have not been granted any access since then. A few months back I bought a new computer to which she used also, mostly for facebook. I logged into the computer on facebook and accessed the private mail section and thats when I realised that it wasn't my account, it was still under hers. Now, I had a look at one of the conversations she was having and to my absolute disgust she is telling said person that I was abusing her physically and mentally and controlling her life...even though I was the one that ended the relationship due to her behaviour.
So naturally I looked through more messages and she told one of her friends that she is now in and I quote, "Revenge Mode" against me. Since that statement, she has told her friends that I have also abused our daughter which is the most hurtful thing I have ever read as I love my daughter to bits. Now, I don't know where I stand legally on this because of it being private messages through facebook, but surely I have some right to get these lies stopped as they are completely false and word gets around quick in our small town and I don't want people to think that I am some sort of sicko because I am not. Can anyone give me any advice on this?
Hi Kyle,
Not much you can do, I am in a similar position.
I spoke to my solicitor and was given advice that in case law, forgot the case but its in another post of mine on here, that its a private conversation so cannot be used in court and to expect my ex to be putting her side across as she likes.
All I can say, I know its difficult and Im trying to take my own advice, is dont read them as they will tear you up and make you feel bad.
My other side says "forewarned is forearmed" but remember "evesdroppers hear no good about themselves".
Chin up and look after yourself....more of my own advice I should listen to.
Regards,
Dave
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