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hi dads. i am having a real problem with my ex telling me who her knew partener is. i only know his first name. he is spending an increasing amount of time around my child as one would expect in their new relationship but she has refused to tell me anything about him, they have been seeing each other for 6 months now.. surely i have the right to know where my child is and with whom? He recently took them abroad on holiday without my permission and only the most basic of travel itinery at the last minute as it was all booked and paid in his name.. I had no feelings towards him a first, he is welcome to her, but obviously i dont trust her judgement anymore, i divorced her for adultery (serial). He is in direct contact with my child and surely i have the right to at least know an address and surname. i need a enhanced crb just to stand accompanied by other adults in a classroom. What can i do legally to force this without breaking the law. my solicitor has demanded several times without joy. any ideas or advice to keep me from the marvel comic costumes?? dads rule ok 🙁
Hi Jedo
Firstly welcome to Dadtalk and thanks for posting. I think it would be good if we get you some free legal advice from our experts over at the Children Legal Centre.
I'll contact them and ask them to log in.
It might take them a few days so hang in there!
Dear Jedo,
Thank you for contacting the Children’s Legal Centre, an independent charity concerned with law and policy affecting children and young people.
We apologise for the delay in responding to your query.
When your daughter is with her mother, it is for the mother to decide who she sees and what she does and except in very specific circumstances (such as going abroad, but only if you have Parental Responsibility) she does not need to consult you on this.
This is also the same when you have your daughter, it would be for you to decide who she sees and what she does.
A parent does not have a right to information regarding the other parent’s new partner. You are able to ask for it, however if it is refused you have no legal right to any information what so ever.
You will also not be able to have a CRB check done on this person, and no court would order this without serious reasons.
If you were to have a new partner the mother would not be able to request this information from them either.
You would also not be able to enforce being provided with an address or any other information regarding this new partner, it would be for the mother to decide whether it was appropriate to provide you with this, the same as it would be for you to decide whether to provide these details of any new partner you may have.
The general presumption is that parents should be acting with consideration to what is best for their children, and they would decide whether any partner is suitable to be around the child. The other parent does not have a say in this, and any information given regarding the partner would be for the parents to decide.
If you believe that this particular person poses a risk to your child, for which you would need real reason, you are able to contact social services, who would decide whether there was cause for them to investigate. However they will not investigate a new partner simply because the other parent does not know them, there needs to be sufficient reason to believe that the partner poses a risk of harm to a child.
We hope this information is useful to you. Should you require further advice please contact the Child Law Advice Line on 0808 8020 008 and an advisor will be happy to help.
Kind Regards
Children’s Legal Centre
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