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i have been to court 3 times in the past 2 years as my ex keeps varying the contact when it doesnt suit her anymore... everytime she accusses me of harrassment and threatening behaviour towards her infront of our child. she now wants to apply for a non-molestation order and again wants to return to court to very the order as she doesnt want to do any of the travelling. Every time she pulls me back in court is for reasons of selfishness rather then whats best for our child.
this time round im thinking of going full full residency as she is claiming the minimal travelling she does is too costly and now cannot afford her rent and will have to move to a 1 bedroom place.
i am currently in a 2 bedroom and will hopefully be moving into a 3 bedroom with my fionce in the near future, i can provide for our child alot better as i do not rely on benefits to do so.
Do i have a chance???
A court won't normally move a child from where they are settled unless there is a very good reason to do so. It's a difficult call on whether they would consider that a one bedroom flat would be inadequate for a child's needs, but I certainly can see a compelling argument. I would say that there is a chance, but it's by no means a certainty, it depends what you ex can do to argue against it, and it certainly sounds as though she could fight dirty - if she does, you still have to be the model person.
well he has arrived to me with some quite nasty bruises that she wouldnt answer for and when i contacted social services and police they did naff all.... i have some photos which im happy to show in court but our child has 4 brothers and sisters that hes isolated from living with her. we have a big family that all love and miss him and would be happy to support at anytime, unlike her....
But it feels she is trying to push me out of our childs life completly by fausly accusing me of things as im not the smallest man and for people who dont know me i can seem intimidating but she knows me better then that....
she put the distance between me and our child.... surely she should take some responsibility for that??
If you have photos of bruises, I'd go back to Children's Services again - I'm pretty sure they'd have to investigate.
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