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My x wife is stopping me having my kids for my wedding. She does not believe in my relationship so she has said no to the kids coming to the wedding even though my oldest was going to be my best man. ( 12 yr old).
But she is happy for me to take them on holiday the next day with my wife and her son.
Can she do this?
That's ridiculous! Unfortunately she can dictate in this way..you could try Mediation, where you would be able to discuss this issue with the guidance of a trained Mediator, there is a charge for this service unless you are on benefits or a low income. Here's a couple of links to the Mediation service and the legal aid calculator.
www.nfm.org.uk
www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid
If this fails you could apply to the court for a Specific Issue Order, but hopefully, if it can be discussed and she realises you can go to court to stop her silly behaviour she may back down.
Thanks for the information but she is unreasonable and the wedding is now too close for anything to be set up especially since I work abroad.
If you are in England at the moment you might be able to apply to the court for an emergency order due to your situation...did she give permission initially and then change her mind?
A quick call to the court would clarify if you could do this at short notice, if it is possible you could be in court in a couple of days. You could also represent yourself and the cost would be £200.
Apparently I have misread all her e mails regarding the wedding. It is only when I spoke to my son and told him that his mum was stopping him and to go and ask her why. She replied that she never did!
How convenient! So it's full steam ahead then....have a fantastic day and big congratulations to you and the bride to be!
might be worth sending an email apologising for misreading the emails, and checking that she is OK with the children coming to the wedding, just in case she thinks about a last minute excuse.
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