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(@g-m-l)
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Hi all my little girl has finally arrived 2 weeks old now .

I have a question how do you cope with lack of sleep im at the point where I feel very sh#tty .

My misses he moaning because I have the odd couple hours in the day only twice just to mention she thinks it ok for me to crack on as she has hardly had any sleep for months .

Any suggestions would be appreciated

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Topic starter Posted : 15/09/2020 10:21 pm
(@bill337)
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hi,

i remember i used to take 1 or 2 weeks off work to help out. after that i still helped but had to make sure i got 4-5 hours sleep in, otherwise i couldn't work.

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Posted : 15/09/2020 11:46 pm
(@g-m-l)
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I go back next week and I am dreading it atm I'm only getting 3 hours

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Topic starter Posted : 16/09/2020 12:29 am
(@bill337)
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energy drinks 8) 👿

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Posted : 16/09/2020 12:50 am
(@motherofafather)
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Hello GmI,

You both need to get as much sleep as you can, take the opportunity to sleep when it presents itself.

Many people do not realize the importance for mind and body of getting a sufficient amount of sleep each day.

Can you both organize a temporary rota for sleep. It will not be long before you get back into your old routine

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Posted : 16/09/2020 12:56 am
 actd
(@actd)
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Congratulations on your noew baby.

As others have said, you need to try to arrange with your partner to give each other a break. However, you will also start to get used to less sleep - at the moment, your body is still adjusting. Once baby starts to sleep through, you'll slowly get more sleep again in the future.

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Posted : 16/09/2020 12:17 pm
(@bill337)
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yep. once baby is 5-6 months old, they will start to sleep longer through the night. every child is different so no guarantee.

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Posted : 16/09/2020 3:19 pm
(@Danbruno1105)
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Move out and do every other weekend then you can get sleep back,

I now get 9 hours and feel good at work lol

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Posted : 17/09/2020 12:02 am
(@bill337)
Illustrious Member

Move out and do every other weekend then you can get sleep back,

I now get 9 hours and feel good at work lol

lool. thats one way to look at it :p looking after kids is very hard work.

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Posted : 17/09/2020 12:42 am
(@motherofafather)
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To Danbruno1105,

Danbruno1105, quote, "Move out and do every other weekend then you can get sleep back ---." In my opinion a very flippant and irresponsible comment !

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Posted : 17/09/2020 12:45 am
(@mr-slim)
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Mate I understand your pain, I took over night feeds when my girl was born, I bedded down in my girls nursery each night for 8 weeks whilst working 6 13 hour shifts each week.

I've never been so ruined, I used to get sleep where I could, literally pulling over at work and getting my head down for 20 mins, make sure you make all your bottles up before hand so it ruduces the time youre awake.

I couldnt rest after I fed my girl as I kept checking every 10 mins to see if she was still breathing.

as others have said try coming up with a routine with your partner which wasnt an option for me as she said I'd done jack for 9 months whilst she was pregnant, they don't understand how tiring it is having to work also, my ex loved it as it was a form of control for her.

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Posted : 18/09/2020 2:30 am
(@clarinet)
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Hello G.m.l,

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your new baby. Sleep depravation is a real challenge, as I discovered with our first child, but it does and will get better. Your baby is so young at the moment and is all topsy turvey with her sleep. Food is the most important thing on her mind right now! Here are a few ideas, just from my experience that may help:-
1. As you work, is it possible for you to let your partner sleep at weekends through the night and you do the night feeds say Friday and Saturday? Depending of course on wether you are able to join in feeding times.
2. Could you both take it in turns to take baby for a walk in the pram whilst the other has a rest for a couple of hours? Babies and fresh air are a good combination and do help with sleep.
3. Keep yourselves well fed - meals with carbs in such as pasta, potatoes and fruit and veg. Have a little treat - give yourselves something to look forward to - a favourite meal perhaps. Remember to drink also - water, juice, decaffeinated tea...
4. Remember to be kind to one another - sleep depravation can bring out the worse in us - so hold on to the fact that you both have a lovely baby, and that this stage will not last forever!
5. Keep your room well ventilated at night, anything like that will help induce sleep.
6. Have you any family members who could look after your daughter for a while so you and your partner can get some sleep? I realise that at the moment with covid restrictions its tricky - but something to consider in the future.
7. Help each other - you will get through this time together. Sleep when the baby sleeps if you can, but as she gets older you will enjoy more awake time together and so your daughter will be more tired during the night and therefore hopefully sleep better.

Please let us know how you get on and I wish you and your family all the best, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer

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Posted : 21/09/2020 2:26 pm
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