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(@misterm)
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hello
ever heard of the hague convention?
no neither had i, until i tried to escape domestic violence with my children.

its not uncommon any more for the dad to stay at home and look after the kids while the mum works, and this is what i have been doing for the last 9 years with my 2 daughters. (just as 1 got old enough i had time to look for work the next one came)
so this makes me the main parent, the children's reference figure, the center of their world... doesnt it?
NO! not in the eyes of a french woman judge when faced with a foreign man and a french woman backed by crooked lawyer with a fist full of fake and manipulated documents.

anyway heres a brief outline of how my life devastatingly collapsed while trying to protect my children.
https://b2aware.wordpress.com/

now i have literally nothing other than the clothes on my back, an old laptop and an empty heart. yes she stole all my worldly possessions too.
i have gone from spending every day caring for my children to 1 weekend every 2 months when i do my best to nurse them back to health and reassure them it wont be forever.
having to hand them back desperately pleading with tears in their eyes to come back to me is almost too much to bear. but this is what their mother thrives on, she gets a sick pleasure from making people suffer, even her own children.

my kids are far away in another country suffering unsupervised violence, cruelty and neglect and there is nothing i can do.
i have written to everywhere and everyone trying to save them again up to and including the prime minister to no avail.

but i will never give up no matter what.
i have to believe that one day, soon i hope, one day truth and justice will prevail and my children can live the happy, healthy and safe life they want and deserve by my side again.

there is a procedure involving Brussels II Regulation to bring the case back to an english court, if anyone can shed more light on this i am very interested

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Topic starter Posted : 25/11/2016 2:21 am
Mojo
 Mojo
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Hi there

All I can suggest is that you contact Reunite, they are very good at the legal side of international child cases and will be able to advise you. Here's a link to their website where you will find details of their helpline.

www.reunite.org

Best of luck

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Posted : 26/11/2016 12:50 am
Yoda
 Yoda
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Hi, agree with Mojo and would give Reunite a call.

Best of luck

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Posted : 26/11/2016 1:07 am
(@misterm)
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thanks
i have been talking with reunite since march and probably spoken to every hague specialist in the country.

the general consensus is to hope that the 'expert' the french judge ordered shows up eventually, although it was ordered immediately with a 3 month maximum and now we are way past 5 months...
when they inevitably confirm me, my children, the high court, cafcass, social services, police, doctors, psychologists, family and friends were telling the truth i will have a french document to add to the pile.

the horror stories of violence my children tell me and the astonishing cruelty and neglect i see for myself has to mean something to the next judge, one would hope.

if anyone finds themselves in a similar situation my advice is not to return to where you fled from even if the court orders it.
read the research carried out by reunite and you will see this situation is all too common.

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Topic starter Posted : 26/11/2016 6:21 pm
Mojo
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...it sounds like you have a handle on it....I wish I could help but I'm no expert in this field... all I can do is wish you all the best and hope that justice prevails.

Sometimes it helps just to talk about it to a sympathetic ear, I do hope you keep us updated and that the tide turns for you and your children.

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Posted : 27/11/2016 5:07 pm
(@misterm)
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thanks mojo

intellectually i see where and how it went wrong and legally i can pinpoint how the judge failed to apply both domestic and international laws.
i can destroy the judgement line by line and clearly demonstrate how the judge was manipulated and where they failed.

emotionally however it is taking its toll,
im pretty much a complete wreck, i cannot sleep, it has taken over every moment of my being,
i cant concentrate on anything else and even my hair is starting to turn grey through stress.
ive discussed it a hundred times to various lawyers, police, victim support, domestic violence places, my family etc etc but it doesn't help at all.

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Topic starter Posted : 28/11/2016 12:32 pm
Mojo
 Mojo
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...it's so important to look after yourself...easy to say I know, but to continue your fight you need to keep your strength up and attend to the basics, such as getting enough sleep and eating properly. Some of the guys here, when at their lowest ebb found that physical exercise helped a lot, others found a short course of anti depressants also helped to get back into a routine.

I'm sorry that talking isn't helping you at the moment, I'm sure your family want nothing more than to support you through this and talking to them is better than isolating yourself.

Keep your chin up and don't give up hope....I understand how hard t is for you, especially as you feel your children are suffering too, let that be what spurs you on and maintains you....but please make sure your eating regularly and get yourself to see the GP to tackle your insomnia.

All the best

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Posted : 28/11/2016 10:45 pm
(@misterm)
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it gets from bad to worse
my children and me have always had a very strong bond, not only the bond between child and main parent but more than that as we tried to survive together against abuse
i have seen my eldest child becoming more and more withdrawn over the past months and becoming more and more unhealthy and unhappy, she seems lonely.
now it seems her spirit has been completely broken by incessant cruelty and just the sheer length of time it is taking the courts.
it would be helpful if we could talk freely together and just have fun but its impossible
begging to talk with me every day but only being allowed 2 times a month for 10 minutes manipulated and supervised skype has broken her spirit

that 'expert' better show up soon and he better be able to recognize someone who is a narcissistic habitual liar, the judge certainly didnt

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Topic starter Posted : 29/11/2016 1:07 pm
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