hi I have a problem and could do with some advice if anyone has expierenced the same kind of thing I have just become a father to a abusive ex. the social services have gotten involved because of her mental history, my issue is that the social worker are taking her side because I cant prove the physical abuse she put me through and she has twisted all on me saying I was the abusive one and now she has it out for me she has neglected to put me on the birth certificate for reasons she wont tell me and is now using my son as a weapon to hurt me I now have no parental rights and the social services are telling me I have no rights even as his father its going to court is there anything I can do? I have sent the conversation we had to my solicitor also by the looks of it the social workers told her to keep me off the birth certificate on purpose so I couldn't get my soon on account of her been unstable
It's a pretty common situation to be in mate most dads on here have had the same including myself, You can quite easily go to court to get parental responsibility which is all you have when you are put on the birth certificate.
Being on the birth certificate and having parental responsibility doesn't really mean a great deal in the real world they don't automatically give you the right to have contact with your child so you need to apply to the court for a Child arrangement order alongside the application for parental responsibility.
To avoid the cost of a solicitor you could self represent and the application for both orders will be around £220 and thats it.
At the end of the day you want to be apart of your childs life so applying for the above orders should enable you to do that.
Are you still living with the mother? are you still in a relationship?
all the best
Slim 🙂
thank you for the reply mate no me and the mother separated about two months in to the pregnancy I already have solicitor with legal aid and will get to the application as soon as possible thank you for the info
Excellent that's great you have legal aid I'm sure your solicitor will inform you or the same as I have 🙂
My ex and I seperated on the day she told me she was pregnant and it was [censored] throughout the pregnancy and then a year or so after whilst I went to court ect so I know how it feels man it's not nice at all, good luck with it all fella 🙂
thank you pal 🙂
Hi
It's not a fast process but the court should get the ball rolling soon. Good to hear you have Legal Aid. Please keep posting and we will do what we can to support you.