So let me get this out there it has been bothering me for a little while and I am really torn about it.
My wife and I had our first baby in 2014, a Beautiful Baby Girl, she was born at 22 weeks. We chose to spend our time with her instead of sending her to the NICU. I don't regret anything. The 15 minutes I got to spend with my Daughter meant everything to me. We then had a wonderful baby boy in September of this year. He is my world! We knew that going into the Pregnancy it would be difficult because she has an incompetent cervix, and had to have a Cerclauge at 16 weeks, and Progesterone shots starting at week 9. The Dr.s said absolutely no [censored]. I was okay with that after all it was for my boy.
Now for the reason I am writing.
It has been three months since the birth of my boy. Still no [censored], I feel guilty when I get mad because I told myself that I would never be that kind of man. But It is not the [censored] that bothers me. Its I feel as if she has no interest in me. Oh I know she loves me but I don't think she wants me. If that makes any sense.
I mean cuddling is one way, I tell her she looks sexy and she ignores me. I tell her that I want to make love to her (more joking than serious) she roles her eyes. I snuggle up to her at night and she doesn't move, but when I role over because she doesn't want me she asks what's wrong.
I feel guilty because I feel that I am pressuring her into [censored] but she never has [censored]. oh the other night we were close but she orgasimmed during foreplay, and then rolled over and went to sleep. ([censored] I thought that was my job to finish first then go to sleep LOL). [censored] I don't know I get mad at no one in particular because she is still the sexiest woman in the world (at least to me), all I want to do is make her happy, but at the same time I am masturbating more now than I did when I was a teenager. ( probably too much information LOL)
Am I an [censored] an need to grow up? I just feel lonely I guess............................................................
Christ you must have a right arm like Popeye! LOL 🙂
No you're not an [censored] you sound like a top bloke, Your Ladies body will be ruined after having the baby and their heads get screwed up and don't feel sexy at all her hormones ect will still be all over the place still as 3 months since birth is nothing, I doubt she isn't attracted to you anymore she will just need time to recover from the birth and get her confidence back, be patient and do nice things for her start romancing her again, do some chores around the house help her out buy her flowers chocolates maybe buy her some new clothes or something she likes and work on setting the mood run her a bath before an early night take things nice and easy and don't pressure her and see how you go, if things don't improve then just be open and tell her how you feel 🙂