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my other half wants me to get a better paid job. She earns 3 times what I am earning and is demanding that I find a new job.
I used to earn a more than 2.5 times what i earn now but hated my job. I absolutely love what i do now and would hate to leave (She also loves what she does and where she works) .
we are not hard up for cash and if the roles were reversed i would be cool with that. As far as i am concerned our relationship is based on more than a financial arrangement. Shouldn't it be about being together rather than how much we earn and what we do for a living?
Hi
I think that relationships are about compromise, I guess finances are always the hardest to do that with though as it can feel very one sided.
I remember with my ex, when I earnt less than she did she wouldn't put any extra money into the joint account unless I could match it (which I couldn't) when I changed jobs and earned more so had more spare cash I would put extra in without a 2nd thought of her doing the same.
I don't know the answer to you issue but talking it over should be the first thing to do, try and stay calm and ensure you listen to what she has to say, don't dismiss any of her views or thoughts and try and take them on board.
Then you can explain your position and how finding another job may be financially better but how it may effect your lives in general as you wouldn't enjoy doing it, that would have a knock on effect to your home life too.
Darren
I don't know the answer to you issue but talking it over should be the first thing to do, try and stay calm and ensure you listen to what she has to say, don't dismiss any of her views or thoughts and try and take them on board.
Then you can explain your position and how finding another job may be financially better but how it may effect your lives in general as you wouldn't enjoy doing it, that would have a knock on effect to your home life too.
Darren is spot on - you need to talk it through, keeping calm is the most important thing. Do you know why she wants you to get a better paid job?
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