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I’m a 51-year old bloke with a (rather unexpected) 4 year-old daughter. I think my wife and I are doing a reasonable job as parents and my wife, who is younger than I, really wants a second child. This is making for a fraught situation as I’m finding the idea really scary for all sorts of reasons - increased stress in an already stressful life, near-complete loss of last dregs of independence and tranquility, financial, etc., etc.
But I want to make my wife happy if I possibly can and it occurred to me that if I had some contact with others in a similar situation it might make things easier. I know of a few other men who've had a family in late 40s/early 50s, but for them it's always been 'second time around'. Has anyone on the forum been in a similar situation?
Mike
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Hi There,
Welcome to the forum, this post looks in the right place to me.
I guess life feel complete to you and you feel you have what you want' I'd say unless you feel 100% for the idea then it will only cause stress, financially I don't think (unless you are at the top end of the financial scale) you ever feel you have enough for another child, but most people just "manage"
There are others on here in a similar situation to yourself and they will i'm sure be on to comment soon.
Darren
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